Life hack #12: Cry your eyes out, then do it again
Life hack #12: Cry your eyes out, then do it again
[00:00:00] So I understand that crying has some stigma. If you're male or, um, if somebody who, you know, comes across as tough or whatever, but there's just no way around it. You need to be able to cry to get the pain out. You need to be able to release pain through your tears, to release your sadness through your tears.
What happens if you don't? I am living proof of this. I just, I don't want to go too much into my own personal details here, but I spent a lot of my years dealing with antidepressants and I got pretty numbed out and I wasn't actually pretty much able to cry for a long time, but I also wasn't able to feel the highs and lows of life.
So it was like, yeah, it was like a package deal. But when I went through heartbreak, I wasn't able to actually really go and release those things that I needed to, to do. And so it was only after I came off those, uh, those medicines years later that I actually remembered, I started to cry again in life.
And then I started to cry a lot in life and I was like, whoa. I didn't realize I [00:01:00] was so sensitive, but the truth is crying is a very important release. And without the ability to let your body shed the feelings that you're experiencing, you're bottling them up and nothing good comes from bottling up those intolerable feelings.
If you don't want to cry in public, I'm not going to lie, I don't have the choice, but to cry in public when I'm really sad, I'm just a very sensitive person. And so if I'm going through a break up, the people at Tim Horton's might know about it, cause I might have sad eyes, right. Like I just cry because I'm sad. So there's some of us that just cry at the drop of a hat and like, it's not that big of a challenge. And there's some people who almost need permission to cry or sometimes a little bit of help to open up the flood gates.
Right? So that's why some people listen to sad songs or songs that remind them of somebody that they're yearning over are missing. And, uh, one of the other parts of this is that you could even just go and cry in the shower. I mean, there's already water coming [00:02:00] down on you. No one's around, you're alone. You know, you can make sounds, you can just let it out.
So you might cry a lot at the beginning, especially when it's a really tough break up or you're like mourning over the loss of someone so much so that you might wonder if you'll ever stop crying again. Right. And, uh, yeah, it can take awhile and you need to do the work to heal yourself, but the ability to cry and let those feelings out is productive.
Those are productive tears. Now, if you're just melancholy and crying, you know, all the time, while you're missing your ex without doing any work to heal yourself, that's not going to be that productive. You're kind of just in quicksand of sadness. Uh, so you need to know the difference between allowing yourself to grieve through crying, through tears.
And then also being almost an emotional masochist and just sitting in the pain because you don't know how to do anything else. I heard a saying once about sad break up songs. About how they hurt so good. And I've never heard people [00:03:00] say like, hurt, so good. What do you mean hurt so bad, but sometimes you're looking to have that feeling so that you can get those tears out.
So. There's resources out there if you're having trouble with this, but, uh, don't be ashamed to let it out. You know, I go to the park and, uh, sit there on the grass sometimes. And sometimes I just can't help it, but like, you know, process a heavy emotion while I'm sitting there. And I have learned not to be embarrassed, like, yeah, like I might throw my sunglasses on, so I don't make a scene or something, but I'm like, no, this is just natural.
This is letting the waves of grief and emotion come over you and release out of you so that you can breathe. And, you know, keep going. So cry and then rinse, repeat meaning. Cry again. Until you just slowly start to reduce the amount of tears that you actually have to contribute to what it is that you're mourning.
So don't be afraid to cry and don't be afraid to cry a lot. Cause there might be a lot of pain and it might take some time for all those tears to come out. [00:04:00] So give yourself grace. Get yourself some three ply tissue, if you can spoil yourself and, uh, yeah. Do your best. By the way. I know this is such a, uh, a shameless throw, but I do have an Amazon storefront and a the link is in the description of this podcast.
I have a list there called break up survival kit. And if you click on that, I will put in the best tissue out there that is going to be nice to your nose and your eyes. Right. And like, you know, maybe some goodies and snacks and, you know, some really funny adult coloring books that I think are just really hilarious, but also productive. When you've got some anger to get out about your ex.
So I'll put a link in the description, but, uh, go ahead. It is an affiliate link. That means if you do make any purchases I will get a small commission, but that is also a way that you could support this podcast. I'm going to ask you to also review this podcast anywhere you listen to it and just give it a five star, let people know that it's worth listening to, and that maybe there's something in this podcast that can help them. Thank you.
