Don’t live someone else’s version of happy

Have you ever really examined how you live your life and realized you made certain choices for someone else?

Did you have kids to make your parents happy? Did you go too high up the stressful corporate ladder just for that fancy job title for your LinkedIn page?

What about when it comes to sex…

Did you (hypothetically) pick monogamy because that was expected of you? Or because you believe in the foundations of monogamy? Did you decide to live in in a cookie cutter house in the suburbs because you wanted that specific life? Or because that was expected of you to want?

I examined my own sex life a few years ago when I became a swinger literally overnight. I decided I wanted a threesome so badly that I was willing to make it happen alone. It took me 34 years to get there but I got there. I bought a ticket to a sex club and I went alone and sober. I became a swinger! Amazing. Life changing. Best decision of my life. The start of something great.

Suddenly I smile more in life. I even developed a giggle because of how light my energy can be sometimes. I started wearing dresses out of the blue recently to match my new feminine energy that is flowing through my body. I wear cute outfits all the time and I love entertaining an online audience of subscribers everyday. I did it for me. I took the lingerie photos for me. Lol. Because it made me happy in a lonely lockdown to get all dressed up and in front of a camera. It was my connection to others. Fast forward 9 months+ and my YouTube channel took off. I have a fans page, a new career, and a swinger merchandise line on my very own website. I’m also having the best sex or my life. I’ve never been happier.

My point is that my life changed for the better when I started living my life doing what made me happy, for the reason of it made me happy. If I had lived a life that others told me would make me happy (married, kids, bills, responsibility 🤢) I would be miserable. Absolutely miserable. The best decision I ever made was to not have children because I was certain I would dislike the experience (to put it mildly). Now I’m a swinger with amazing friends, a YouTuber/OnlyFans entertainer with an audience hungry for my sexual overshares, and i’m living the time of my life. My flame burns hot. Because I live what makes me happy.

If you need help re-igniting your own internal flame or “spark”, take a look at your life and assess what deducts happiness (and work to eliminate/minimize) and start something new that makes you happy. Something you smile thinking about. Even if it seems small and silly.

And then get out of your own way (we are our own worst enemy when it comes to excuses)… and go get it. Live the life that will make you happy 💯