Life hack #29: Signs you are healing
Life hack #29: Signs that you are healing
[00:00:00] Life hack #29 Signs that you are healing. When you're lost in the depths of despair and grief and pain, especially after a traumatic loss of a break up, you can wonder if you're ever going to feel better. You can wonder when is this going to be over? When can I reasonably expect to be back to a normal feeling? And that's a fair question because for a lot of us it can feel like we're drowning and we don't see land.
Like we don't see a way out, we don't see an end. And I want you to make a list for yourself of how will you know you're healing. It didn't really occur to me until I saw a Reddit post in one of my break up threads that I'm on, that it's actually hard to define or know that we're actually healing and moving forward, unless we carve them out and recognize them.
And that's what this life hack is. You need to know the signs that you're healing. For me, the signs that I'm healing, I'm roughly like 35 days out from a break up that was hurtful, like a very big loss to me.
[00:01:00] So for my personal situation, I noticed that some of the signs that I was healing was that maybe for the first time I wouldn't wake up crying.
I wouldn't wake up wondering why they're not in bed with me, or, you know, crying about the fact that they're not still in my life. Um, sometimes I'll notice that I'll be able to watch a movie or hang out with a friend and have a laugh about something that's completely not related to my ex or anything sad. And then I'll yes, I'll come back to sadness later, but it was nice to have the vacation, right? The vacation from grief. That's a sign your healing too, is when you could have gaps in your pain. Right. So yes, you should go and find distractions that are healthy and that's a good way to experience the absence of pain.
If you can get there.
Another sign is that if you have an internal dialogue in your head, it can start to shift to more I statements instead of we. Like I used to think, oh, that would be a great place for me.
And so-and-so to go or, oh, so-and-so would like that. And so [00:02:00] instead in my head, it's about what I like and things that I want to do. So that was something I noticed was that I stopped making it about our future plans, me and my ex, because he's not in my future anymore.
And making my future about me and doing that more instinctively. That was a sign for me that I was healing. And so I think it's important that you realize that there is going to be a day that the fog and the grief lifts to a point where you look back and realize your progress. And so making note of the signs that your healing is just a beautiful part of tracking your journey and believing in yourself that you're going to get there and you're already well on your way.
