Is there equality in polyamory between men and women?
I’m very open minded about sex and I actually do enjoy hearing from my play partners tell me about their other sexual escapades… in detail actually. LTR’s are different for me and I tend to lean more monogamish for those types of serious relationships.
The red line (with women)... when we’re done, we’re done
It’s true what they say about us normally forgiving women…. when that red line is crossed it really is over. There is emotional certainty in it for us. There is no more emotional conflict. There is nothing to miss… the guy we missed doesn’t exist anymore.
When feelings change…
There is a silence where there used to be buzzing
There is a loneliness where there used to be fullness
There is confusion where there used to be smiles
There is a sobering up of the heart
Dear diary, maybe I’m poly after all...
You know… the more I experience life, the more I am coming to realize that one person will never be able to fulfil my sexual needs… even if I feel they could fulfil all my emotional needs (perhaps I’m a poly-hybrid?). Even if I am open to an emotionally monogamous relationship I still want to retain freedom to get fucked when/how I want.
Emotional triggers… are where there is “animation” behind your emotional reactions. Follow the clues to set yourself free.
Ever notice you get especially irritated or even angry when talking about something specific? I.e. an ex who hurt you, when someone is late, when you feel a certain feeling (i.e. forgotten, lonely, disrespected, instructed). Take note of what it was that you were talking about when you got animated… you’ll need it soon. 😘
What do women want? We want to feel special to you.
When I feel so special to a man that I smile when I think about him… it’s like temporary anesthesia in my jealousy energy… nothing hurts cause I feel so good. He could literally have on orgy at Comic-Con on the weekend and as long as he didn’t miss a beat in our dynamic I would be entirely happy for him. Funny isn’t it?
No more B****m (ex/friend)
As much as I am salty and truly disappointed at the loss of a friendship it is no longer okay to “carry him” with me energetically. Time to release him and make space for someone new.
How to shake off negative energy in 5 days (by listing things you are grateful for)
When you brush your teeth in the morning, after you spit, I want you to use your hands and list 10 things you are grateful for.
Here are mine for today to give examples: I’m grateful I get to work from home, that I have a great job, that I don’t stress over money, that I am healthy, that it’s taco Tuesday, that I had sex last night, etc.
The “forgotten” little girl inside... and the special type of men who love, cherish and protect them
But some men..... a special type of man....brings out the vulnerable little girl inside.... a soft and sweet side that was silenced, lost and forgotten a long time ago..
She was buried under the emotional “armour” we learned we needed after getting our hearts hurt again... and again...and again
Story time: Misogynistic comments in front of an alpha female on zoom…enter TorontoUnicorn
I objected to the implication that if we didn’t yet secure a man (whether we submit to that man or not) we were somehow “lesser than”, somehow “unfortunate”. I corrected his understanding of “all women” and I explained how I was 37, single, and very fulfilled and happy in my life.